4 January :: Today's my birthday (actually I'm not yet "here" until 9:37 PM, Minneapolis, time.) I thought I should say something profound, prophetic, or make a resolution or three.
I am actually pro-New Year's resolutions. Those who say, "They don't work!" are either satisfied with their current set of personal habits, finances, and the size and shape of their physiognomy or don't see the value in trying. Put me down as not satisfied and ready to try something that works better.
Freud said dissatisfaction is the early warning sign of our creative spirit." Being dissatisfied is really saying is, "This could be better." On that, me and Dr. Did-You-Hate-Your-Mother agree.
I make a few personal resolutions every year on my birthday. They are practical, important to my on-going development and enrichment, and they are do-able. Once again this year "loose 150 lb." did not make my list. Being more physically active did.
The key is that on a day that I don't do my walking or other cardio stuff I don't say (or think) "I am such an enormous, complete failure. I am doomed to be in the Macy's parade floating my way down Broadway." No I say, gotta get back at it tomorrow. Usually I do. This year I am resolved to make a success of my freelance speaking, coaching, and writing in ways I never have. It includes putting in office time every day, connecting, communicating, making work.
It is not my favorite way to spend time, but it contributes to opportunities to use my strengths, practice my passions, and be the me that my Creator intended for me to be. That's what I love.
I know, too, that being me encourages others to pursue their passions. I know that that happens because you tell me these posts and my speaking and teaching inspire you. And that inspires me to do more and try to do it all better.
So, making new and better plans and setting some goals is a good thing. When I don't get "it" done, I get at it a little better tomorrow.
Resolutions are a good idea. If you only stick with it a few weeks or even a few days you've made a little change. Even 1% change each day means 100% improvement in just 70 days.
Try this: instead of say "I'm going to stop ______" say, "I will reduce ______ a little every week, a little each day." Cut "it" in half or by 10-20%. In the last year I have cut back a little in several areas. It makes a difference.
Or I might have said, "Just shoot me. I can't do it." BUT... I know I can do it because I have. Make a small change today. If it makes A difference, do a little more tomorrow.
Remember: "Anything worth doing is worth starting poorly just to get it started." That's from the fertile mind of G.K. Chesterton. He knew that we begin a new thing as best we can and then we can get down to improving it.
Everything you do well was once something you could NOT do at all. You tried, failed, tried again, got better, sucked at it for a while, improved and now...
What do you want to do, fix, change? Do it. Get moving.
Ready for better? Me too.
Add water and stir! Keep stirring.
Let me know (in the comments) what works—even a little.
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