• going it alone

        
    Where in the World is Wes?

All these ch-ch-changes in my life (new diet, walking/stretching/weights, daily "Taddeo" list, regular sleep schedule) was working. It was great help to the entire regime that I also had a weekly phone check-in with my long-time friend, now coach, Wes. He's in Denver, I'm here by the Bay of Saint Francis.
    Then I decide to try and "go it alone" (with out Wes.) "Besides," I told myself, "He's got all this carpal tunnel surgery coming up so I'll give him a break." (I'll give HIM a break. Laugh now.) "And, hey, I've got my "tahdoo."
    Oops.
    I talked to Wes two days ago (Monday, 19 May '8) and boy did I need it. He was not judgmental, not even a whiff, and he did not scold me–I was sure he would since I scold me constantly. (Wes isn't a scolder, at least never to me.)
    I sent Wes a brief update of the last few weeks (with bullet points) and so we got down to the important stuff quickly.
    Just a quick note to all of us. Don't do it alone. I am in the process of inviting two other friends (besides my great friend Susan) to walk with me, one day a week, for an hour. If I am committed to three days of walking because of a commitment to a friend, I can do the other three or four days with just me and my Creator, getting thinks done.
    Some of you have emailed me (outside the bounds of the comments section of this blog) to say you admired me for hiring a life coach, but you... "can't afford one, don't know any, wouldn't't trust someone else to tell you what to do."

Try this:

• COST: My coach is my friend and he does it 'cause he loves me, for FREE.
• FINDING A COACH: Try taking on a coach who is also a friend and an expert in just ONE area of life you want to improve (health, organization, writing, art, speaking), developing a more efficient working environment, your "look" (grooming and fashion), etc.
• TRUST: I trust Wes and will try anything he suggests. Not every suggestion has worked FOR ME. So we retool and try other methods. Unless they ask you to jump off a high building, kick your dog, or eat nails, TRY IT. And try it foe a full week to do it correctly before rejecting it.

100% Better, Soon!

Remember if you improve 1% a day in an area of your life, you will be TWICE as good in just 70 days.
    Also, in the area of improving, expanding, or developing your skill set, focus on areas where you already have above average abilities or talent. Strengthen your strengths. If you try and strengthen your weaknesses it will take a long time and you will get discouraged. If you are below average, delegate!
    This is based on the great work (and writing) of Marcus Buckingham and his excellent book NOW, DISCOVER YOUR STRENGTHS. With the purchase of the book you will receive a password to access an on line survey to discover your innate strengths.
    Let me know what your up to in your pursuit of a better you. Please put ot in the comments section below so you can inspire other readers. 
    Now . . . I'm going for a walk. Comming?  

McNair

P.S. I got up Monday morning, looked in the mirror, turned on the hot water, and . . . shaved off my beard. It is the first time I have had a bare chin since August, 1986. (I was in fifth grade.) Photos, soon.  -->

 

Comments

[fran]

Hey. Take a look at a book by Jenifer Fox's "Your Child's Strengths." or go to Strengthsmovement.com

Then tell us what you think! Perhaps it will make your book review listing.

[Heidi Renee]

Woo hoo - here's to a fresh start!! pictures PULEEZE!!!

I cried for joy when Keith shaved off his mustache - he never seen him without it!

[McNair]

I'm happy for Keith, but I'm keeping my mustache, for now, just in case I lose one of my eyebrows.

[Wes]

...doing life with you, McNair, is fits easily into the category of "sacred privilege!"

...one of these years we will stand on a mountain together here in Colorado

...between now and then, keep conquering the mountains out there

...and do remembver, you are loved!!!!!!!

...Jesus said so!

...me too...........

[Ken]

I love your blog. I will link you if it is okay.

[Tina Parker]

McNair, are you through teasing us? We want pictures already!

I am glad that you are posting again. You have Wes — we have you.

[Kimberly Haynes Titlebaum]

My friend Ramona Richards (writer, editor, and Christian--but not in that order)sent me this because I am a life coach. Very often I joke that my job is to coach my clients so well that they grow to not need me, thus insuring my own eventual obsolete-ness. But truely, most clients do try to go it alone a bit too soon and need a quick re-connect. Think of it as when you have taken off the training wheels and your coach is running along side with a steadying hand when you wobble. And at first EVERYONE wobbles. But before you know it you will be sailing along on your glorious own. But often my clients cruise on back to show me their progress or else because they are now ready to try something else new and daunting. Pat your self on the back for being brave enough for the reconnect. Some people let misplaced shame hold themselves back.

I must send Ramona flowers for introducing me to you and your site!

Off for my own walk, now. My walking partner is a 60 pound Vizsla who will NOT accept no or an excuse. If I try to ignore her, she slips her head between the laptop and my leg and drools until I submit.

Damply yours,
Kimberly Titlebaum

[Nikki]

Just want to give a shout out for Wes too! You don't know me but I know Wes - guess that means I'm automatically friends with SARK.
My husband and I were going through a troubling decision. My husband said, "Well I'm not going to call Wes right now because he'll just tell me how great I am."
In actuality - he also always provides insight and challenge as well. He just asks good questions, doesn't he??

But that is the beauty of coaching. Encouragement, insight, challenge and just asking good questions...

I love your "Try This" bit.
In fact, after reading it, I decided to call my friend Misti and invite her to speak into "one area of my life I want to improve". Great suggestion. She gave me some fresh perspective.

Well, I'm gonna scoot. God bless you in your journey ONWARD!
Nikki